Been waiting all week for this...

1. Stitch is my favorite Disney character...he's cute, fluffy, and he's shameless!!!

I SWEAR he's cussing people out in that alien language of his!!!

2. Speaking of aliens, in High School I wore SILVER disco boots.

3. I can't dance...when I try I end up doing aerobic exercise moves and end up looking like the woman who sang, "Let's get Physical."

4. The last concert that I went to was the Jackson 5 and my mom took me to it!

5. To cap this retro theme off...I gotta say "I love the 80s"...disco maybe dead to the world but not in my heart...


Hope you have a GREAT Friday!...now where is my Saturday Night Fever album? TGIF baby, TGIF (also a disco song...as you all may remember)

I did and I thank the commenter for her candor. Yesterday I asked the question, how important is it to have a mate who believes in you. I received many excellent comments but one just knocked me out of my chair...

BACKGROUND: Right now I'm feeling my way through the dynamics of the relationship that I'm in. In one of my replies I mentioned that it was weird...that I was having a hard time feeling badly about the relationship. Partly because I've turned off a lot of my feeling, you know, shut them down. Partly because I'm just used to this type of treatment (grew up with this dynamic between my mom and dad). I said that I was generally confused at this point. Then I asked the question...

IS AN OVERLY CRITICAL MATE AN ABUSIVE MATE or AM I JUST LACKING A THICK SKIN???

Now, I don't know if the comment was specifically addressing that comment but what she said back was...

"I doubt if you're ever going to be smarter."

I didn't think this was mean, just the opposite it was a call to reality. I believe that the commenter was saying that if I couldn't read the writing on the wall, I indeed, would never be smarter!!!


This exchange was followed by another wonderful comment which tied the whole answer together for me. My dear friend Mackenzie wrote the definition of believe...TO BELIEVE, to trust, to have the utmost confidence in the existence of, to trust implicitly in the ability of another.

After looking at the definition there can really be no confusion can there? To put it simply, we achieve by believing that we can do things. And if that is the case, than to have a mate who doesn't believe would lead one to not achieve (or at the very least it would make it harder because after awhile one starts to ingest and take on the characteristics of the poison).

CONCLUSION:

HOW IMPORTANT IS IT TO HAVE A MATE WHO BELIEVES IN YOU?...absolutely 100% required to make it in today's world and have the slightest chance of happiness!!! How did I miss that?

Finally, I've got to share an interview I had this week...I was wonderful AND a affirmation of all the things that I know that I am. The interviewer said that I was too good to be true...he said that with all of my experience and my life story I should be appearing on the Oprah Show!!! like I was Hallie Berry's cousin ...My God, it was so wonderful for me to hear that!

I can't imagine what it would be like to have a mate who felt the same way...with that type of backing I probably would be on the Oprah Show (sorry, not trying to brag) just seeing myself through the eyes of others. Love you all, thanks for your kindness during a rough time.

The sun is shinning today...good for me!

Yea, you know it every February 2 we gotta deal with this big rat popping out of the ground, what's his name, Phil?



Anyway, it just adds to the whole February thing for me. I actually wait to hear if the darn rat has seen its shadow...like it actually means anything. See I told you February was a bad month for me!!!

Here's the theory: If Phil, the big rat, sees his shadow, winter will last six more weeks (in the years when this happens I just go get a cup of hot chocolate with EXTRA whipped cream and a COOKIE). If he doesn't see his shadow, winter is over and spring is on the way (in the years when this happens I actually believe and start to act like spring IS around the corner).


I'm getting sick of Phil...Woogs do you have an alternative to the big rat...I think he's giving furry beings a bad name!!!

By the way, anyone know, did Phil see his darn shadow today or what?

Just in case any of you are fans of the big rat...he has his own website! (I don't even have my own website!) Anyway, check him out @groundhog

He tells me that I am weak
(I know that I am not)

He tells me that there is no reason to get a job...I will spend all the money
(I know that I can be responsible)

He tells me that it is my fault that the baby is insecure
(I know that it is a phase and will pass)

He sometimes thinks so badly of me
(I know that I am a good person)

However, I've a sense that if he keeps picking there will eventually be nothing left and in the end I won't know anything...that I'll be left stripped...



How important is it to have someone who believes in you?
(I don't know what it means)

I wanted to take a minute and dedicate time to mourn the passing of a great woman, Coretta Scott King. Not only the wife of slain civil rights leader Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. but a monumental force herself in the civil rights movement and inspiration to the world.

I found this really neat story about her in yesterday's newspaper...

While she was studying music at the New England Conservatory of Music in Boston in 1952 when she met a young graduate student in philosophy, who on their first date told her: "The four things that I look for in a wife are character, personality, intelligence and beauty. And you have them all." A year later they were married.

What wonderful words for him to say to her, what a great affirmation of who she was. I admire women who are strong enough and smart enough to choose partners who mirror back to them what they see in themselves.

Tell me, where does that come from?